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An emotional affair is when you turn to a friend or co-worker for emotional (not physical) intimacy. The seduction is that this person gives you what you feel that your spouse does not: support, ego boosts, playfulness, empathy, flirting, and understanding. This relationship begins in a very innocent way, yet you may begin to share more with this person than with your spouse. You know you are having an emotional affair when: 1) He/She is the first one you want to share good n

Affairs happen in happy marriages as well as troubled marriages. An affair does not mean something is missing at home. It can happen at any particular life stage or in any particular pattern. There are external stressors that push people off balance. It could be a tremendous success in career where one feels inflated and entitled, or one might be feeling inadequate in some way and it could be a boost to one’s ego, could be the birth of a child, family illness or change of l

Question: My son's best friend's mom just passed away. I am concerned for my son and don't know what to do for him. He is distraught. How can I help my son? Response: Grief is a normal and natural reaction to the death of a loved one. No two people grieve the same, even in the family. I am certain that your son’s friend and mom are like family to your son. Losing his friend’s mom can and will bring up all kinds of feelings for your son including his own relationship with you.

This is a must read by Elizabeth Bernstein: Contrary to conventional wisdom, sometimes it’s men who first lose sexual desire in a long-term relationship, a new study finds. Men’s desire for sex can be as tricky as women’s, according to researchers at the University of Kentucky. Men often lose interest when they feel insecure, when they worry they are losing autonomy in a relationship, or when physical changes cause embarrassment. Pressure to be the initiator compounds the str

Forgiveness is a conscious decision to let go of feelings of anger and resentment toward a person who has committed a wrong. It can bring a sense of peace and relief from negative feelings once we are able to let go. Forgiveness does not mean that one has forgotten or excused an offense nor does it mean that we reconcile with the offender. Sometimes, reconciliation with the offender may be potentially harmful especially in cases of unhealthy relationships such as abuse. For